So, I always found it odd when I heard of married couples (at a variety of ages) who sleep in separate beds. I saw on Kourtney & Kim take New York (Don't Judge...I was watching a little as I was flipping through during a sick day this week.) that Kourtney and her boyfriend and baby daddy, Scott, don't sleep in the same bed. I've had conversations before with a coworker who does not sleep in the same bed as her husband.
Is this more common than I thought? Surely, I have my own opinions on that. Don't worry, now's not the time that I'll share those.
This week, though, I was very sick. I haven't been that sick in ...well, I can't remember. I couldn't keep an ounce of food or liquid down for 24 hours. I had a tight stomach for 3 days. Let's just say it wasn't pretty.
The first (and worse) night of illness Adam said, "I'm going to sleep in the guest room tonight. You need some good rest." Initially I thought, "Hm. I don't know that it's necessary." But I wasn't in much into disagreeing that evening. Let me tell you, I had an AMAZING night of sleep! The next night came around and Adam and I mutually agreed it would be best for him to sleep in the guest bedroom one more night.
My intention was two fold: 1 - I didn't want him to get sick. This stuff was not fun and I really wanted him to remain healthy. Being so close in proximity felt risky. 2 - I wanted to experience that AMAZING sleep again! Day two was just as good as the first night.
So we've decided to from now on to sleep in separate beds. It's worth it. The sleep we get on our own is so much better than when we sleep together.
I'M KIDDING!!!
Last night, Adam rejoined Beans and I in our normal bed and I have to say...it's good to have him back. I still slept wonderfully...and I have his nearness. Have you ever noticed the joy that the nearness brings? I missed him while he was in 'the other bed'. So it is with that I will say that I hope you and your spouse sleep together. And I mean that literally. :) There is a bond, a sense of peace, security and pure joy that one can experience by having the love of their life less than a foot away. Love it!
Friday, January 27, 2012
Monday, January 16, 2012
One Thousand Gifts
I am starting a a new book with a friend who also happens to be struggling with infertility. I am pretty excited about it. My friend has an incredible faith. She is dependent upon the Lord and it excites me that we'll have an opportunity to learn, process, grow and become grateful together. The book is called One Thousand Gifts.
It is interesting how we've reached this point in life. You see this friend of my mine (with whom I'm reading the book) was an acquaintance, a friend of a friend, if you will, while in college. She and I didn't directly hang out together and really did not have what I would call a friendship. She was always kind and friendly but time did now allow for our friendship to blossom.
Fast forward eight years...
Her mom knows my mother in law. Ironically they shared with each other about their children both having difficulty conceiving. My mother in law shared that we may want to talk with this other couple because they have started the fertility treatments and we had not yet.
We arranged for dinner...well just for the ladies. She and I met, shared feelings, how those feelings relate to our faith, and the difficulty of all things associated with infertility. I must say, I was nervous meeting for the first time. I want things to go perfectly. I don't want to cross any boundaries of comfort and I certainly don't want to make the struggle of infertility all about me.
We met and things clicked. Even looking back at that first meeting and subsequent meetings I am still amazed at God's plan. Here we are...two individuals whose paths wouldn't normally cross. Two individuals who while dealing with one of the most difficult things in life also want to glorify God throughout it all.
This (what I would certainly now call a) friend and I met last week to discuss the first two chapters of this book. I am so grateful she's willing to share, ask questions and listen. I found quickly we have different ways of processing the information, but think that's so healthy! We will be challenging each other to look at this book from different perspectives.
But what I love most is the story. God introduced us to each other almost 10 years ago. But years later, after time, growth, questioning, seeking, praying and hoping...he has led us to each other to love, comfort and experience True Community together. God intertwined our lives for years to lead us to this point.
This book is all about gratitude and living the full life of Thanksgiving. As I look at my own struggle with infertility, I could choose to question God, wonder why us, ask if he is good, ...the list could go on for days. But what I am learning is the joy in the struggle. Honestly - I would not be at this point of growing deeper with a long time acquaintance if it weren't for infertility. God planned this story. He gave us both this journey to walk. He gave us both the opportunity to grow and gave us both the courage to be vulnerable.
So it is with thanksgiving that I write this post. I am thankful for the place where God has led me. I praise him for my friend. And I look forward to sharing much more with you about this incredible book.
It is interesting how we've reached this point in life. You see this friend of my mine (with whom I'm reading the book) was an acquaintance, a friend of a friend, if you will, while in college. She and I didn't directly hang out together and really did not have what I would call a friendship. She was always kind and friendly but time did now allow for our friendship to blossom.
Fast forward eight years...
Her mom knows my mother in law. Ironically they shared with each other about their children both having difficulty conceiving. My mother in law shared that we may want to talk with this other couple because they have started the fertility treatments and we had not yet.
We arranged for dinner...well just for the ladies. She and I met, shared feelings, how those feelings relate to our faith, and the difficulty of all things associated with infertility. I must say, I was nervous meeting for the first time. I want things to go perfectly. I don't want to cross any boundaries of comfort and I certainly don't want to make the struggle of infertility all about me.
We met and things clicked. Even looking back at that first meeting and subsequent meetings I am still amazed at God's plan. Here we are...two individuals whose paths wouldn't normally cross. Two individuals who while dealing with one of the most difficult things in life also want to glorify God throughout it all.
This (what I would certainly now call a) friend and I met last week to discuss the first two chapters of this book. I am so grateful she's willing to share, ask questions and listen. I found quickly we have different ways of processing the information, but think that's so healthy! We will be challenging each other to look at this book from different perspectives.
But what I love most is the story. God introduced us to each other almost 10 years ago. But years later, after time, growth, questioning, seeking, praying and hoping...he has led us to each other to love, comfort and experience True Community together. God intertwined our lives for years to lead us to this point.
This book is all about gratitude and living the full life of Thanksgiving. As I look at my own struggle with infertility, I could choose to question God, wonder why us, ask if he is good, ...the list could go on for days. But what I am learning is the joy in the struggle. Honestly - I would not be at this point of growing deeper with a long time acquaintance if it weren't for infertility. God planned this story. He gave us both this journey to walk. He gave us both the opportunity to grow and gave us both the courage to be vulnerable.
So it is with thanksgiving that I write this post. I am thankful for the place where God has led me. I praise him for my friend. And I look forward to sharing much more with you about this incredible book.
Tuesday, January 3, 2012
A Deadly Combination
First Day of my period + PMS/Cramps + Six friends announcing their pregnancy in the last 3 weeks = a deadly combination.
But I know a greater power. One that helped me overcome the sorrow and pity I began to allow myself feel today. God is good. He is obviously helping me grow. I am grateful for that. I can only pray I continue to know and recognize His presence as He's trying to help me.
Isn't it insane how our minds/emotions can let us downward spiral into a sea of sorrows and pity?
That's the power of the devil.
But I know a greater power. One that helped me overcome the sorrow and pity I began to allow myself feel today. God is good. He is obviously helping me grow. I am grateful for that. I can only pray I continue to know and recognize His presence as He's trying to help me.
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